LATELY, I’ve been thinking a lot about the importance of showing warmth in relations with others; making one’s self more available both emotionally and physically. I’ll admit I’ve been guilty of “putting up walls” with others, to protect myself from disappointment, rejection, pain, etc. I guess I’ve been cold. It must be a late 20-something thing; all this reflecting deeply on life – making the transition to a more whole adult by age 30. Whatever it is, I’m grateful for the insight and the ability to point my finger at myself. It’s so easy to blame others - but real growth comes from the courage to say, “It’s my own fault” or “I need to change”.